You can have them all, for sure! And if you’re aspiring to thrive, and not just survive, aiming for all of them, in some measure, at some point, is a good idea.
But have you wondered enough about them? What do they really mean? What do they imply and entail? And what obsessing with any of these says and tells others about you? Here’s a hint: it is not what makes you better than the rest.
Comfort and security serve a preservation purpose while luxury and status serve a positioning purpose. The former has to do more with the self, what you need and want regardless of others, and the latter has to do more with others, what you need and want regardless of yourself. And if you can accomplish all of it, what is there left to worry about? They don’t have to be at odds.
If you tend to value comfort and security the most, having your own space for nourishment and enrichment is important to you. You might be what can be called a homebody. You are possibly modest, even humble. And might have trouble wrapping your head around why others invest so much in showing off - often at the expense of having comfort and security first.
If you tend to value luxury and status the most, your image and how others view you is important to you. You might be what can be called vain. Perhaps you are acutely aware of how that benefits you, opening up opportunities for you, getting you VIP treatment, and allowing you into some of the most select areas and circles. You could have trouble understanding why anyone would pass up on that - and rejoice in the lifestyle that so few get to have.
You could have been brought up like this and it is simply what you are familiar with, so that is how you roll, unquestioningly. Or, on the contrary, you lacked it so much before that you committed to never again be without it (may take it to the extreme, too). Either way, prejudice and resentment could form.
However, while it is sensible to say that one must learn to prioritize and practice moderation, completely denying yourself some level of any would do you a disservice. It is still up to you to figure out what you genuinely appreciate the most and in what amount, as well as what would be a suitable means to a worthy end, but watch out for the pressure to value in excess what you sincerely wouldn’t.
May you make your life an unregrettable and unforgettable experience!
CREDIT: AI-Generated Examples done on Leonardo.AI