You would assume that recovering from betrayal is comparatively easy. After all, it is an event that happens within an instant. However, such a sudden blow can be profoundly and immensely devastating.
You begin questioning your reality. Your opinions, your views, your beliefs. All that led you to trust somebody or something that wasn’t trustworthy, wondering what you missed. And you ask yourself what else could you be missing about those still around you that, as far as you know, haven’t yet betrayed you. You become suspicious. And it’s as if you can no longer confidently stand your ground or hold on to anything. Or at least that’s what might happen if it’s bad enough.
This is a process that is natural and should not be bypassed if it comes to be, however. Give yourself the time to get a grasp again on what is, what isn’t, and what might or might not be. And if you must baby-step back into trusting again, then so be it. You can forgive, but you don’t necessarily ought to forget.
There’s the saying, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” But as some have said, it should go, “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on YOU again.” Because it is still them who are destroying trust and wasting second chances. But you should indeed weigh how worth it the risk is and decide whether or not to take it when it comes to it.
Regardless, if you have proven trustworthy people close by, your attention is best given to them while you return to your more sure self.
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