Better Off Alone?

Maybe. Maybe you are…

We are social creatures. Or, in the case of the less sociable ones, would enjoy the company or the presence of at least one close person in our lives. But what if being alone keeps looking like the better option?

The truth is: we are not compatible with everyone. And the more atypical you are in terms of personal traits and social expectations, the less likely you are to fit in with others. Then, you may, indeed, begin getting comfortable with solitude.

This is not necessarily a reflection of a poor character, however. It is quite possible that there is knowledge that you must gain and skills that you must develop to become a better person to yourself and, consequently, for others. But it is also possible that it is precisely being your best self that is setting you apart. Since, when you work on yourself, you become more yourself and less what those around you are or urge you to be. Which, eventually, might turn you into what could be considered an “acquired taste” (or, let's face it, you're on another wavelength).

Do not despair, however. There are levels and facets to it. If you cannot find those who would wholly and fully embrace and appreciate you as you are, the odds are still higher for finding those who would to a smaller degree, as far as they get it. And that can get you by until you do.

And in the worst of cases, how awful is it to be alone? If you are, take the chance to discover, build, and live your life on your own terms. Without such distractions or interruptions. Engage in solitary, yet enriching and fulfilling activities. Meditate. It might be exactly what suits you. Until or unless something better finally appears and is within reach.

How much company you really need, and how much you would be fine exchanging for it, is for you to ultimately find out.