Rocking Your Look

Nothing wrong with adorning and altering your appearance if you’re into that. But it may indeed get to a point where you should ask yourself if you’re doing yourself a disservice by covering and removing features that you could instead embrace or even pronounce. Features that make you unique and possibly irreplaceable.

Often, we get carried away by trends and what the current standards are. And while they can indeed be considered and integrated into our choices (and it can be fun to do), I wouldn’t advise letting them overrule everything - especially if you’re the kind of person who’d rather do their own thing.

What is considered pretty or cool can wildly vary depending on the culture. Conditioning and programming, yes. But also how values are set in a person’s value system. You could argue that there are objective rules for what can be called beautiful or impressive, based on symmetry, proportion, and more. However, it will still ultimately be a subjective judgment.

This being the case, you have a say in how you’re perceived by bringing to it your own values. In other words, if you believe that you’re the bomb, it will be easier for others to see you as that too. It doesn’t necessarily have to come through as a loud statement, it can be a quiet knowing as well. Being accepting of yourself and secure in that. Beware, though, that this could result in magnetism that is also polarizing - and all that this entails.

Inhibitions and apprehension can indeed be adorable and have their own charm to them, relatable and validating to some and enticing in certain contexts, but do little for or work against making your look A Look. Unless people on the other end can have their own criteria, they would be swayed by your discomfort to wonder what is wrong about you and search for what would confirm that bias. And even strong-minded individuals could cave in to do the same if you're persistently doubtful or even negative.

If you are concerned about crossing the line between being confident and being delusional, then you can always practice being honest (not harsh) with yourself and evaluating yourself accordingly. What do you genuinely appreciate? What have you come to terms with? What could you fix or improve?

The world would be very boring (and bizarre) if we all looked the same. You don’t have to if you don’t want to. You can be unshaken by what is only passing through.

CREDIT: AI-Generated Examples done on Leonardo.AI