You should take seriously what is serious. At one point or another, you become the adult. That is, the person who is responsible not only for yourself, but also for others. And it may be tempting to endlessly delegate this burden. But then you look around and realize that everything is going downhill because you haven’t stepped up as the grown-up.
Yes, it can be heavy, frightening even, and you may suffer from imposter syndrome, wondering about whether or not you are even capable of such a role, worrying you will make it worse rather than better. But this paralysis is not a valid excuse to forever put off what evolution itself is counting on you for. You are supposed to help carry things forward. Otherwise, what are you doing?
You are not alone in the fight and, even if you were, it can start with you. When it looks as though everyone is headed toward their own destruction, or the destruction of everything else that does not concern them, you must stand firm in being somebody who doesn’t just roll with it. Eventually spot or urge others to join you in it.
Then, if you have taken it upon yourself, against all 'convenience', how do you even go about it? How do you move toward better rather than worse?
• Work on yourself first and foremost. Not to get stuck there, solely invested in that, but as what’s by default. If you are in poor condition, there is only so much that you can successfully tend to. Check your ego, check your distortions, check your competence, improve yourself, and so on.
• Actively practice discernment with honesty. Truth hurts, and reality can be harsh, but you cannot make good decisions while operating upon illusions and lies. You might “get along” and “get ahead”, but you wouldn’t be working in alignment with what is. A lousy foundation to say the least. Take it in small doses if you ought to.
• Identify existing problem areas. Look around. What do you see? Search for problems that must be addressed and solved. How many of those are you equipped to handle or assist with? If there is nothing or little that you can do, you probably can bring attention to them for others more capable to take over. Prioritize as required.
• Have a solutions-oriented mindset. Challenges and obstacles abound. And as if that’s not enough, likely sabotage too. You will be easily discouraged and even give up if you don’t constantly remind and ask yourself for what could be done about this and that. Instead of resorting to merely weighing how hard and difficult something is.
• Be resourceful and willing to get your hands dirty. You may have been taught or conditioned to seek perfection and set the perfect example, proving yourself and others how much you can properly accomplish, but this isn’t about you and your capabilities - this is about getting results towards what’s right.
Clearly, it all is infinitely more complex, but these are 5 points to carry with you, while under various sets of circumstances, and send you on your way.















